Hey FABS! So your girl is back in the dating game again...
I just turned 31 and it seems like the older I get, the more exhausting it is to date. You have to get to know someone all over again and answer all the typical questions. "What do you for a living?" blah. blah. blah. "What are your hobbies?" blah. blah. blah. "What do you like to do for fun?" blah. blah. blah. I mostly hate these questions because it makes me realize how boring my life really is lol.
Anywho, my last dating experience ended with me blocking the guy's phone number. Before blocking him, I had some reservations about if I even wanted to continue getting to know him. Sure, he looked good on paper- Good job, own place, wanted a relationship, etc. But we just really could never seem to get on the same wavelength. No vibes were there, atleast not on my end and I'm allll about vibes!
It made me realize that no matter how good the person looks on paper, the relationship can't be forced. Now, there are some exceptions to the rule when people somehow make it work. But how happy are they really? It made me realize how important compatibility is. I call it vibes but it really is compatibility. When you two aren't out having a good time and you're just sitting on the couch together, can you just talk about life and be so captivated by the conversation? That's what's important to me. Issa Vibe!
If you're in the dating game like me, it may be wise to remember that Compatibility is a MAJOR KEY!
Here's some areas of compatibility that you may want to ask yourself before calling him Bae:
Chemistry: I can't explain any other way than it's a connection, a VIBE that you feel. You two are on the same page with one another. If there's no chemistry, there's no foundation to build a relationship. Move on sis.
Lifestyle: What's your lifestyle? Does his lifestyle match yours? Do you like to go out but he's a homebody who would rather spend his weekends playing the PS4? This could lead to some issues later. Determine if this is something you could adjust to for the long term.
Humor: Do you find the same things funny? Or do his jokes offend you sometimes? If his sense of humor steals your joy instead of creating it...NEXT!
Marriage/Children: Is marriage and/or children important to you? Or do you not want that at all. Either choice that you've made, make sure that your potential Bae is on the same page as you.
Politics: Do you both share the same political views? In the society that we're living in today, this could be a major deal breaker for you. Some big arguments could pop off if your political passions don't match up with his. Don't take this lightly.
Sometimes, we as women get into a mindset of thinking that we can change a man. Unless you're Erykah Badu, you may have some difficulty doing that! (Sidebar: That woman will leave her men changed forever. Won't she? Lol). I'm just being real. With the older we get, the more set in our ways we are, including men. Check the compatibility at the door to make sure that "Issa Vibe"
What's some areas of compatility that's a must for you? Let me know in the comments!